Why It’s Okay to Not Have It All Together: Embracing ADHD Imperfections as a Mom and Small Business Owner

When I left a stable, well paid job to build my business, I thought it would be the perfect solution to have more control over my time and life. But in reality, it often feels like I’m juggling 100 different things at once—while managing family responsibilities, the highs and lows associated with ADHD, and the physical and emotional shifts that come with getting older.

I’ve struggled with feelings of inadequacy, especially when things don’t go as planned. Between running a business, keeping up with my kids' sports schedules, and managing my own health (which seems to require more attention these days), I sometimes feel like I’m falling short in every area. On top of that, managing ADHD means dealing with challenges like forgetfulness, disorganization, and a tendency to jump from one idea to the next. But here’s the truth I’ve come to realize: perfection is neither realistic nor necessary.

The ADHD Struggle: Managing Multiple Roles

As an Executive Function Coach, I’m always thinking about new ways to grow, whether it’s through new activities for my clients and workshops or social media marketing and networking with other local businesses. But with ADHD, focusing on one thing at a time doesn’t always come naturally. I can get easily distracted, lose track of time, or forget key tasks—things that can feel frustrating and even shame-inducing. Throw in the responsibilities of raising kids and the hormonal changes that come with my 40s, and it often feels like my energy is stretched too thin.

Then there’s the guilt. I sometimes feel like I’m not doing enough—whether it’s not dedicating enough time to the business or not being fully present for my family. There are days when I get overwhelmed by everything I should be doing, and those moments of self-doubt are hard to shake. But here’s what I’ve learned: embracing the imperfections of ADHD and being kind to myself has been the key to staying afloat.

Perfection Isn’t the Goal—Progress Is

Instead of aiming for perfection, I’ve learned to focus on small, achievable progress. Whether it’s completing a project for my business, making it to my kids’ game on time, or simply taking a walk to manage my mood and metabolism, these small wins are what really matter. I’ve stopped obsessing over everything having to be perfect and started celebrating the fact that I’m doing my best in a life that’s often unpredictable.

Running a business and managing family life doesn’t have to be “perfect” to be successful. In fact, learning to accept my ADHD imperfections has allowed me to build flexibility into my routine. I’ve realized that my unique way of thinking, even with all its quirks, has led to creativity and out-of-the-box solutions that have helped me as a business owner and a parent. And if I’m being honest, I think what connects me most with my clients are these imperfections. I own my downfalls and don’t shy away from sharing how some strategies just do not work for me.  And how even with the best intentions, I don’t always follow through. In my experience, I’ve learned that I have to develop strategies that play to my strengths, like breaking tasks into smaller steps (and then maybe even smaller steps), setting up reminders (and following them!), and creating systems that work with my brain—not against it.

One of the biggest shifts I’ve experienced through coaching and research is in how I view “failure.” Instead of seeing it as a reason to give up, I now see it as an opportunity to learn and adjust. I’ve gained tools to stay organized and focused, even when my mind feels like it’s scattered in 50 different directions.

Finding Balance in My 40s: Health, Mood Swings, and ADHD

As I get older, I’ve also had to deal with the changes that come with my 40s—like slower metabolism and more intense mood swings. These shifts, combined with ADHD, can make staying energized and motivated even harder. But I’ve learned that I don’t have to “fix” everything at once. Some days, just getting through the day and checking one thing off my list is enough. Other days, I make a conscious effort to prioritize self-care, whether it’s taking a walk, having a healthy meal, or simply getting enough sleep.

And let’s be real—finding time for myself amidst everything else is a challenge. But slowly, I’ve started to prioritize my health, even if it’s just for 15 minutes a day. It’s not perfect, but it’s progress.

Embracing Imperfection in 2025

If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the years, it’s that perfection isn’t the goal. Progress is. Whether you’re an entrepreneur, a parent, or someone with ADHD trying to get it together, it’s important to give yourself grace. The juggle is real, and it’s okay if things don’t always go according to plan.

As I continue to build my business, raise my kids, and manage my health, I’m embracing the messy, imperfect journey. I don’t have to have it all together. I just have to keep moving forward with the tools that work for me—small and simple habits, self-compassion, and a whole lot of flexibility.

Ready to Embrace Your ADHD Imperfections?

If you’re feeling overwhelmed by the weight of trying to “have it all together,” I encourage you to give yourself some grace and consider Executive Function Coaching. Together, we can create a personalized strategy that helps you thrive while accepting and embracing your imperfections.